Listen now (14 mins) | Walk with me down a lonely road.
Very nice. I like being alone. I came across a great quote about being lonely in a crowd, in a book about economics, of all things: If I'm going to be alone, I might as well stay by myself.
I imagine most people are like myself, waxing and waning with loneliness. This pandemic has exacerbated loneliness. Even stuck in a home with loved ones, one can feel entirely alone. It's certainly an apropos topic for the current state of the world.
Nature does help. It's so unusual how extended isolation can highlight the counter-points feeling alone & connected in tandem.
I've found that considering others is helpful in fighting feelings of loneliness, too.
But your discussion on finding the self in loneliness is quite beautiful indeed. Finding oneself in loneliness can be a scary endeavor. Facing no other distractions, just acknowledging oneself. Seeing "flaws", recognizing origins of "fears", contemplating the little things that make oneself unlike any other. It's ironic how these things that make us so unlike one another end up making us similar to one another.
Thank you for this writing. It is helpful and hopeful to feel less alone ♡
I really enjoyed this one - I tend to feel most lonely amongst larger groups of people. This was a very perceptive essay!
Simply beautiful. SO MUCH resonates. But perhaps this, "In removing the demands of society for a spell by placing ourselves in the natural world, we become naked, our masks no longer fitting our faces. AND IT IS A RELIEF. I experience nature to be the best place to practice the brave choice of practicing meditation through watching pain" is what I feel deeply into right now. Thank you for your thought-provoking, nourishing, and comforting words.
Too good. thank you.
You've captured all the paradoxes of loneliness in a time where we talk so much about connection. As an ex-New Yorker, the loneliness in a city of millions especially strikes me as true. Great article!
I needed this today my friend, Renee. Thank you.
"we forget to look up to the sky and drink in the stars."
Beautifully and poetically inked. The concrete facades that many find themselves in breeds an unfortunate victimhood that many cling to in fear of acceptance, and seeking inner truth.
Your words reminded me of a quote from the late Carl Rogers, a pioneering humanistic psychologist:
"a person is a fluid process, not a fixed and static entity; a flowing river of change, not a block of solid material; a continually changing constellation of potentialities, not a fixed quantity of traits.”